Mindful Parenting and loving unconditionaly
Mindful parenting is practice was slowly introduced in late nineties and it has it roots in long-standing Buddhist principles of embracing the present moment, practice freedom from the egoistic perceptions by continually avoiding discomfort and seeking pleasures.
Mindfulness been introduced to parenting practices by Steinberg and Kabat-Zinn. This approach of parenting is based on awareness of kids uniqueness and talents. It emphasises being fully engaged with your child’s needs and emotions without judgment or distraction, building deeper connections and creating a nurturing environment for growth. This approach encourages parents to respond to situations with thoughtfulness rather than reactive nature, promoting a calm and balanced family dynamic.
Listening intentionality
Active listening involves fully focusing on your child’s words, emotions, and behaviors without interruptions or judgment. It requires not just hearing what they say but understanding the emotions and intentions behind their words. By listening empathetically, you validate their feelings and create a safe space for open communication, strengthening the parent-child bond.
Emotional Regulation
Parenting can trigger intense emotions, but managing your own feelings is essential for creating a supportive environment. Not reactive during children tantrum it a subject for a senate page 🙂 Emotional regulation involves recognising your emotions, pausing before reacting, and responding thoughtfully. While a parent might need to have a strong and calm approach, it is not easily done, especially when the parent’s nervous system and emotional state are overstimulate By self regulated approach helps a child feel secure and models healthy ways to handle emotions.
Non-Judgmental Awareness
Accepting your child as they are and sharing your support unconditionally—without criticism or preconceived expectations—is a foundation of mindful parenting. As mentioned in the book The Conscious Parent by Dr Shefali this practice involves seeing your child as an individual with their unique strengths, weaknesses, and growth journey. By embracing their authenticity and their process of learning without judgment, you share unconditional love and acceptance on all levels.
Intentional Engagement
Being fully present it a rare gift in our modern world. When you spend time with the child it gives them the most valuable and needed source to feel loved and seen. This involves setting aside distractions like phones or work and immersing yourself in shared moments, whether it’s a conversation, playtime, or active play together. Intentional attention shows your children they are valued and nurtured which builds strong self esteem in their future.
Leading by Example
Reflecting on your own thoughts, emotions, and reactions is crucial in mindful parenting. Self-awareness helps you understand how your past experiences, triggers, and expectations influence your parenting style. By becoming aware of these patterns, you can make conscious choices that align with your values and your child’s needs.
Children learn a great deal by observing their parents, often more than through direct instruction.
Parents serve as role models, and their behaviors, attitudes, and reactions provide a blueprint for how children navigate the world. Whether it’s how parents handle stress, communicate with others, or show kindness and empathy, children absorb these attitudes and often mimic them in their own lives. The way parent react on various situations in life helps your child feel secure and models healthy ways to handle emotions. This observational learning highlights the importance of establishing the values and behaviours we wish to see in our children, as they are constantly observing our actions as lessons on how to live and interact.
Now you might think about how their environment play the role in the learning process and acquiring social dos and don’ts and the rules of friendship and cooperation. Here where choice of the right school taking place.
Mindful Parenting Books
Excellent Book that describes how children learn the lessons and comprehends where they have misbehaved. Book suggests strategies through giving real life examples.
Wellbeing is about living mindfully your life. This Book gives practical tips on applying resilience, building willpower, confidence and self esteem. Understanding mindful feeling thinking and doing
The Book suggests to review the most common parenting strategies to recognise parent desire for the child versus the child’s desire. The author calls parents to review their own imprint of thinking and behaving and belief system.
Practical guide that helps parents understand how their own experiences shape the way they parent. The Book shows how self-aware parent can help connect with their child and build a strong, loving relationship that supports their emotional growth.